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Why Some Gemstones Make Terrible Engagement Rings

If you’re dreaming about gemstones for your engagement ring, you aren’t the only one! Today gemstones in engagement rings have become quite popular. Whether it’s utilizing gemstones as accent stones or having a gemstone in the center of the ring, the world has seen an uptick of color on the left ring finger.

What many people don’t know is there are many gemstones that are just not suitable for an engagement ring. Why? There are many gemstones that just aren’t durable enough for every day wear. You want to wear your engagement ring every day, right? We thought so. Don’t worry; we’ve broken down for you the gemstones that can withstand everyday life.



On the Mohs Scale of Hardness Ruby is a 9. What does that mean? Well, the Mohs Scale determines the hardness of stones. Diamond is of course a 10. Even though a stone may rate high on the Mohs Scale doesn’t mean it can’t chip. It does mean it is extremely resistant to scratching. Rubies are the next best thing to a diamond, in terms of durability.

Rubies range from pink tones to red tones, depending on the stone. A high quality Ruby is also a rarity, meaning it can easily equal the price if not exceed the price of a similarly sized diamond. Want to keep it budget friendly? Go with a lab created Ruby. Lab created stones are made out of the same chemical composition as a natural, meaning they will have the same durability.


Ruby and Sapphire are made of the same material, corundum. Corundum has a hardness of 9. If you aren’t a Blue Sapphire kind of girl you are in luck; Sapphires come in all the colors of the rainbow.

Sapphires generally tend to be less expensive than diamonds, and they also come in Lab Created stones.



Opal engagement rings are all over the internet (I’m looking at you Pinterest). Yes, they are pretty. Opal has a very unique look to it, so it’s no wonder ladies think it’s beautiful. But Opals are terrible for engagement rings. They are extremely soft stones, meaning they easily scratch and chip, even with light use. If you are considering an Opal for your engagement ring, just know you may have to replace it often.


Pearls have long been heralded as a classic stone. Don’t get me wrong, pearls are gorgeous on a necklace or earrings but on a ring it’s just a no-no. Pearls are usually drilled and glued into a ring. Glue might be strong, but it’s not strong enough for everyday wear. It’s inevitable that eventually that Pearl is going to fall out. Not only that, but Pearls are an incredibly soft stone. You get one scratch on a pearl and the whole outer layer can come right off. So, stick to the necklaces and earrings.


Touted as a precious gemstone, Emerald has a gorgeous green color. As a May baby myself, it was hard for me to accept the fact that Emeralds just aren’t great for rings. They may be a little higher on the Mohs Scale (7.5-8) but they contain a lot of inclusions. It is extremely rare to find an Emerald without inclusions. Those inclusions make the Emerald more susceptible to damage and a lot of times they will chip. If you have to have a green gemstone in your engagement ring, get a lab created Emerald. They are a little more durable because of the smaller amount of inclusions.

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